Everyone agrees that the court system is antiquated and slow. Empowering yourself to learn how to communicate effectively, even in difficult situations, will help you to advocate for yourself and develop the terms that best suit your ideas and ethics.  The biggest cause of future conflict from court-mediated agreements tends to be the lack of time and funds available to develop a comprehensive agreement between the parties. Again, the goal is to teach parties how to communicate their terms in a way that can be considered, thoughtfully, by the other party and vice versa.   I want parties to feel in control of the agreement by developing detailed explanations of each term and a sequence of consequences if the terms are not followed.